Your answers to these seven
questions can determine if you are emotionally bound:
1. Are you perpetually unhappy
and you don't know why?
2. Do you say 'yes' when you want
to say 'no'?
3. Do you constantly experience
failed relationships in your personal, work, or church life?
4. Do you experience anger,
bitterness, or frustration often?
5. Are you tired of setting goals
and never seem to accomplish them?
6. Are you tired of making money,
but always living in poverty?
7. Do you seem to attract people
into your life who are not spiritually, emotionally, or financially healthy and
you think this is the best you can do?
If you answered 'yes' to any of
these questions, you are experiencing emotional bondage. Now, please go back
and re-visit your answers, and write down why you answered yes to that
particular question. Don't be discouraged. You can break this bondage off of
your life.
First, let's look at the definition
of emotional bondage: Emotional bondage occurs when:
1. you constantly make choices
that bring hurt and pain into your life
2. you have thoughts that are
almost always negative or frightening
3. you are not enjoying the life
you are living.
Do thoughts come to you and you
wonder why that thought just popped into your mind? Do your emotions sometimes
overtake you? Do you get tired of crying at every drop of the hat? Do you
wonder why you behave the way you do around certain people or in certain
situations? When one is emotionally bound, there is a major attack on something
termed 'your soul.'
WHAT IS YOUR SOUL?
Your soul is your mind, will, and
emotions. Your mind houses your thoughts. Your will houses your behaviour. Your
emotions dictate your feelings. While your soul is invisible to the outside
world. We allow emotional bondage to dictate to us that it is more important to
take care of our external self, than our internal self.
THE INNER SELF VS THE OUTER SELF
When you are emotionally bound,
you spend more time dressing up your outer self than you do healing your inner
self, healing your emotional wounds. For instance, let's take the couple who
are always dressed to the nine's. The husband wears Stacey Adams shoes, Pierre
Cardin suits and splashes on Kenneth Cole cologne. His wife? She wears her red
bottom Louboutin sling-backs, Donna Karan off-the-shoulder dresses, a splash of
Fendi, and carries a Gucci purse. They are the image of success and happiness.
What about the family who attends church regularly? Whenever the doors of the
church are opened, they are in attendance. Or, what about the senior couple,
both in their middle 70's, always smiling and holding hands.
You could never tell by looking
at any one of these individuals if they are or are not entangled by emotional
bondage. Maybe you do not wear Stacey Adams, or carry a Gucci purse, but,
still, the intent is to cover up the hurt, to dress it up so that no one
notices that you are dying on the inside. There are professional people who are
willing to help you deal with your internal problem of being emotionally bound.
Therapists, doctors, and pastors are professional people trained to assist
those in emotional trouble in getting set free so that they can live a life of
emotional freedom. I was once emotionally bound and now I am free.
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